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MoDS Suggestion Box

You Know What

Actually Works.

Tell Us.

Every bad singles event in history was planned by someone who never asked the singles. You’re the expert on your own experience. This is where that expertise finally counts for something.

Submit Your Idea
See What Others Are Saying

Open

To Any Member

Reviewed

By Valdon Personally

Acted On

The Best Ideas Become Real

“The people who should be designing dating experiences aren’t the organizers. They’re the singles. And we’ve been leaving them out of the conversation for too long.”

Why This Exists

Something Has Been Missing From the Room

The singles events and dating industry is full of well-intentioned people who genuinely want to help. But wanting to help and knowing how to help are two different things. And for decades, the gap between those two things has been filled with guesswork instead of the one thing that would actually close it – asking the people who actually have to show up.

The result is a landscape littered with rooms that don’t work. Events where everyone is uncomfortable and nobody connects. Experiences that set people back instead of moving them forward. And a slow erosion of hope that compounds with every disappointing evening.

The MoDS Suggestion Box is the correction. It’s the channel that has been missing – a direct line from the people who live the experience to the people who can change it.

The Gender Imbalance Problem

Events routinely end up 70% one gender. No pre-screening. No structure. Just hope – which turns out to be a terrible event strategy.

The Frequency Mismatch Problem

A room full of people who want completely different things is a room full of guaranteed disappointment. Shared intention is the foundation. Most events skip it entirely.

The Values Vacuum Problem

Without shared values, every conversation starts from scratch. Chemistry is exhausting when you’re also trying to figure out if this person is even playing the same game.

The No-Feedback Loop Problem

Organizers rarely know why their events fail. Attendees leave frustrated and don’t come back. The cycle repeats. Nothing improves. Everyone loses.
Why This Works

What Happens When Singles
Design the Experience

This isn’t a feedback form. It’s an innovation engine. And the fuel is the lived experience of 4,000 people who know exactly what they wish existed.
01

Your Experience Is the Research

No focus group, survey company, or marketing consultant has more accurate data about what singles need than the singles themselves. You’ve lived it. You know what felt right, what went wrong, and what you wish had existed. That knowledge is invaluable – and it’s been untapped until now.
02

Ideas Incubate Into Real Things

The strongest ideas submitted here don’t stay ideas. They get reviewed by Valdon, discussed with the community, refined through real feedback, and piloted as actual events and features. Your suggestion could become the next Social Circle format, the next event concept, or the next screening approach that changes how this whole thing works.
03

You Build Ownership in What You Help Create

There’s a fundamental difference between attending a community and building one. When you contribute to the thinking, you’re invested in the outcome in a completely different way. Communities built by their members are communities people actually show up for – and stay in.
04

Businesses Get What They've Been Missing

Every organizer, coach, and event host who participates in this ecosystem gains something no amount of market research can buy: direct, honest, specific insight from the people they’re trying to serve. That insight is the difference between events people tolerate and events people talk about for weeks.
05

The Feedback Loop Finally Closes

For the first time, there’s a formal channel between what singles experience and what organizers build. Ideas get submitted. Organizers read them. Things change. And the next generation of singles events is better because of the conversation that happened here.
06

It Cross-Pollinates Ideas We'd Never Reach Alone

A 28-year-old professional woman in Raleigh sees the problem differently than a 45-year-old divorced father. When those perspectives land in the same conversation, they create hybrid ideas that neither person would have reached independently. Diversity of experience is the engine of genuine innovation.
What We're Looking For

Any Idea That Makes Connection Better

There are no wrong categories. If it improves how singles find each other, interact with each other, or experience the process of meeting someone – we want to hear it.

Event Formats

New structures, venues, activities, or timing concepts

Screening & Matching

Better ways to curate who's in the room before the event starts

Community Building

Ideas for how the MoDS community grows, connects, and sustains

Communication Tools

Better ways for members to discover, introduce, and connect with each other

Safety & Respect

New approaches to making everyone feel protected, valued, and seen

Resources & Education

Guides, tools, or frameworks that make the dating process smarter

Social Circles

New circle types, structures, or activity formats to try

Anything Else

If it doesn't fit a category, it probably just needs its own

What Happens Next

From Suggestion to Something Real

Your idea doesn’t disappear into a void. Here’s exactly what happens after you submit.
1

You Submit

Your idea lands with Valdon. Anonymous submissions are welcome — the idea matters, not the name attached to it.

2

We Review

Valdon reads every submission personally and evaluates it against what the community has shared and what’s needed next.

3

Community Weighs In

Strong ideas get shared with the community for feedback, refinement, and support.

4

It Gets Built

The best ideas get piloted as real events, features, or programs inside the ecosystem.

From the Community

Ideas Already In the Pipeline

These are real submissions from the MoDS community – proof that the conversation has already started. Join it.
Event Format
42 support this

Values-Based Speed Dating - Match on Answers, Not Appearances

Before anyone sees who they’re sitting with, both people answer three core value questions in writing. Reveal after. You start the conversation knowing whether you’re even playing the same game.
Submitted anonymously
Being Piloted
Community Building
38 support this

Monthly "Interests First" Micro-Events Built Around an Activity, Not Dating

Skip the “singles event” branding entirely. A group of 10 compatible people who all love hiking, wine, or board games. Let the shared activity do the social work. Remove the performance pressure completely.
Submitted anonymously
Under Review
Screening
29 support this

Relationship Intent Transparency - Everyone Declares Their Goal Before the Event

Each attendee publicly commits to a clear intention before RSVP is confirmed: long-term relationship, open to marriage, friendship first. No ambiguity. No wasted evenings. No surprises.
Submitted anonymously
New Submission
Social Circles
42 support this

Seasonal Experiences - Small Groups, Recurring, Building Familiarity Over Time

The same curated group of 8 people meets four times over a single season. Not a date each time – just life lived together. By the fourth gathering, trust has been built organically. Real connections have a chance to form.
Submitted anonymously
Under Review
Safety
33 support this

Host-Facilitated Conversation Starters - Remove the "What Do I Even Say?" Paralysis

Provide every attendee with three curated conversation prompts based on their profile. Not ice-breakers – actual meaningful questions designed to surface values and personality within the first five minutes.
Submitted anonymously
Being Piloted
Your idea belongs here
Submit Now
Event Format
42 support this

Values-Based Speed Dating - Match on Answers, Not Appearances

Before anyone sees who they’re sitting with, both people answer three core value questions in writing. Reveal after. You start the conversation knowing whether you’re even playing the same game.
Submitted anonymously
Being Piloted
Community Building
38 support this

Monthly "Interests First" Micro-Events Built Around an Activity, Not Dating

Skip the “singles event” branding entirely. A group of 10 compatible people who all love hiking, wine, or board games. Let the shared activity do the social work. Remove the performance pressure completely.
Submitted anonymously
Under Review
Screening
29 support this

Relationship Intent Transparency - Everyone Declares Their Goal Before the Event

Each attendee publicly commits to a clear intention before RSVP is confirmed: long-term relationship, open to marriage, friendship first. No ambiguity. No wasted evenings. No surprises.
Submitted anonymously
New Submission
Social Circles
24 support this

Seasonal Experiences - Small Groups, Recurring, Building Familiarity Over Time

The same curated group of 8 people meets four times over a single season. Not a date each time – just life lived together. By the fourth gathering, trust has been built organically. Real connections have a chance to form.
Submitted anonymously
Under Review
Safety
33 support this

Host-Facilitated Conversation Starters - Remove the "What Do I Even Say?" Paralysis

Provide every attendee with three curated conversation prompts based on their profile. Not ice-breakers – actual meaningful questions designed to surface values and personality within the first five minutes.
Submitted anonymously
Being Piloted

Your idea belongs here

Submit Now
Event Format
42 support this

Values-Based Speed Dating - Match on Answers, Not Appearances

Before anyone sees who they’re sitting with, both people answer three core value questions in writing. Reveal after. You start the conversation knowing whether you’re even playing the same game.
Submitted anonymously
Being Piloted
Community Building
38 support this

Monthly "Interests First" Micro-Events Built Around an Activity, Not Dating

Skip the “singles event” branding entirely. A group of 10 compatible people who all love hiking, wine, or board games. Let the shared activity do the social work. Remove the performance pressure completely.
Submitted anonymously
Under Review
Share Your Thinking

Put Your Idea Into the World

Every breakthrough in how singles connect started as a single person thinking “there has to be a better way.” If that’s you right now – this is the form.

The Suggestion Box

Anonymous submissions are welcome. Your idea will be read by Valdon personally – usually within 5 business days.

01 - About Your Idea

Give your idea a headline *
What category does this fall under? *

02 - The Full Picture

Describe the problem this solves *
Describe your idea *
Why would this work?

03 - About You (Optional)

First Name
Email
Are you a member, organizer, business, or community builder?

Ideas are reviewed by Valdon within 5 business days. You may be
contacted if we want to develop yours further. See our Privacy Policy.

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The Best Version of This
Doesn't Exist Yet

The best singles events, the most effective communities, the formats that actually work – none of them have been invented yet. They’re sitting in the heads of singles who’ve attended too many bad ones. Maybe including yours.
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