Every bad singles event in history was planned by someone who never asked the singles. You're the expert on your own experience. This is where that expertise finally counts for something.
"The people who should be designing dating experiences aren't the organizers. They're the singles. And we've been leaving them out of the conversation for too long."
The singles events and dating industry is full of well-intentioned people who genuinely want to help. But wanting to help and knowing how to help are two different things. And for decades, the gap between those two things has been filled with guesswork instead of the one thing that would actually close it — asking the people who actually have to show up.
The result is a landscape littered with rooms that don't work. Events where everyone is uncomfortable and nobody connects. Experiences that set people back instead of moving them forward. And a slow erosion of hope that compounds with every disappointing evening.
The MoDS Suggestion Box is the correction. It's the channel that has been missing — a direct line from the people who live the experience to the people who can change it.
Events routinely end up 70% one gender. No pre-screening. No structure. Just hope — which turns out to be a terrible event strategy.
A room full of people who want completely different things is a room full of guaranteed disappointment. Shared intention is the foundation. Most events skip it entirely.
Without shared values, every conversation starts from scratch. Chemistry is exhausting when you're also trying to figure out if this person is even playing the same game.
Organizers rarely know why their events fail. Attendees leave frustrated and don't come back. The cycle repeats. Nothing improves. Everyone loses.
This isn't a feedback form. It's an innovation engine. And the fuel is the lived experience of 4,000 people who know exactly what they wish existed.
No focus group, survey company, or marketing consultant has more accurate data about what singles need than the singles themselves. You've lived it. You know what felt right, what went wrong, and what you wish had existed. That knowledge is invaluable — and it's been untapped until now.
The strongest ideas submitted here don't stay ideas. They get reviewed by Valdon, discussed with the community, refined through real feedback, and piloted as actual events and features. Your suggestion could become the next Social Circle format, the next event concept, or the next screening approach that changes how this whole thing works.
There's a fundamental difference between attending a community and building one. When you contribute to the thinking, you're invested in the outcome in a completely different way. Communities built by their members are communities people actually show up for — and stay in.
Every organizer, coach, and event host who participates in this ecosystem gains something no amount of market research can buy: direct, honest, specific insight from the people they're trying to serve. That insight is the difference between events people tolerate and events people talk about for weeks.
For the first time, there's a formal channel between what singles experience and what organizers build. Ideas get submitted. Organizers read them. Things change. And the next generation of singles events is better because of the conversation that happened here.
A 28-year-old professional woman in Raleigh sees the problem differently than a 45-year-old divorced father. When those perspectives land in the same conversation, they create hybrid ideas that neither person would have reached independently. Diversity of experience is the engine of genuine innovation.
There are no wrong categories. If it improves how singles find each other, interact with each other, or experience the process of meeting someone — we want to hear it.
Your idea doesn't disappear into a void. Here's exactly what happens after you submit.
Your idea lands with Valdon. Anonymous submissions are welcome — the idea matters, not the name attached to it.
Valdon reads every submission personally and evaluates it against what the community has shared, what's been tried, and what the ecosystem actually needs next.
Strong ideas get shared with the community (anonymously if requested) for feedback, refinement, and support. The best ideas get better when more people think about them.
The ideas with the strongest case — community support, practical viability, and genuine value — get piloted as real events, features, or programs inside the MoDS ecosystem.
These are real submissions from the MoDS community — proof that the conversation has already started. Join it.
Before anyone sees who they're sitting with, both people answer three core value questions in writing. Reveal after. You start the conversation knowing whether you're even playing the same game.
Skip the "singles event" branding entirely. A group of 10 compatible people who all love hiking, wine, or board games. Let the shared activity do the social work. Remove the performance pressure completely.
Each attendee publicly commits to a clear intention before RSVP is confirmed: long-term relationship, open to marriage, friendship first. No ambiguity. No wasted evenings. No surprises.
The same curated group of 8 people meets four times over a single season. Not a date each time — just life lived together. By the fourth gathering, trust has been built organically. Real connections have a chance to form.
Provide every attendee with three curated conversation prompts based on their profile. Not ice-breakers — actual meaningful questions designed to surface values and personality within the first five minutes.
Every breakthrough in how singles connect started as a single person thinking "there has to be a better way." If that's you right now — this is the form.
Anonymous submissions are welcome. Your idea will be read by Valdon personally — usually within 5 business days.
Valdon will read your submission personally. If your idea is strong enough to move forward, you'll hear about it — and if it goes all the way, so will the community.
The best singles events, the most effective communities, the formats that actually work — none of them have been invented yet. They're sitting in the heads of singles who've attended too many bad ones. Maybe including yours.