Welcome to Modern Dating Solutions

You Deserve More Than
Another Swipe

The right relationship doesn't happen by accident — it happens by design. MoDS is your first stop for the community, resources, and expert guidance that turn dating from exhausting into genuinely exciting.

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4,000+ Real Singles, Real Goals
9 Yrs Professional Matchmaking
1 Place Every Resource You Need

"The right person isn't hiding — they're simply waiting to be found in the right environment, by the right approach, with the right community behind them."

What Is MoDS?

Everything You Need to Find Love — Finally in One Place

Most singles are doing it alone — bouncing between apps, half-hearted meetups, and advice from friends who are just as lost. Modern Dating Solutions exists to change that. Think of us as your personal headquarters for all things dating and relationships: vetted communities, trusted coaches, real events, and the kind of knowledge that actually moves the needle.

We don't just point you toward resources — we curate them. Every community, tool, and experience inside MoDS has been selected because it genuinely serves people who are serious about finding love. You'll gain clarity on what you want, confidence in how you show up, and a social circle full of people who are on the same mission.

Whether you're just beginning to put yourself back out there or you've been at this for years and know something has to change — you're in exactly the right place. And you won't have to figure it out alone.

Couple connecting meaningfully
~4,000 Members & Growing
Your Journey

A Path That Earns You Better Matches

Anyone can swipe. What separates MoDS is the standard we hold — for ourselves and for our community. As you invest in your profile and complete our process, you unlock deeper access, better-curated events, and ultimately, the people most compatible with who you are and what you're looking for.

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RegisteredYou're in. Welcome to the community.
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AuthenticatedYou're verified as a real person — trust starts here.
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QualifiedYour profile is complete enough to be seen clearly.
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CertifiedYou've done the work — assessments done, interview complete. Events unlock.
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VerifiedThe full experience. Private matchmaking. You're ready.
Social Circles

The Smartest Way to
Expand Your World

Think about the best relationships in your life — most of them grew out of a shared environment, repeated contact, and natural chemistry over time. Social Circles recreate exactly that. Intimate groups of 6 to 20 carefully matched singles, designed not to force a connection, but to give one every possible chance to grow.

Triangle Social Circle

Live and love local. This circle brings together eligible singles from across Raleigh, Durham, and Chapel Hill for experiences that feel nothing like a first date — and everything like a great Saturday.

Christian Social Circle

When your faith shapes everything — your values, your vision for family, your non-negotiables — it matters deeply that the people you meet share that foundation. This circle was built for exactly that.

Black Professionals Circle

Accomplished, intentional, and done settling. This circle is for Black professionals who want a partner who matches their energy — someone who understands the journey and is building something real.

Raleigh Social Circle

Smaller. More personal. Raleigh-focused. These gatherings feel less like an event and more like being invited into a great group of friends — one of whom might just change your life.

Triangle Professionals

You've invested in your career. Now invest in your personal life with the same intentionality. This circle connects driven, growth-minded singles who want a relationship as strong as their résumé.

Your Circle Is Coming

New circles launch as the community grows. Don't see yours? Tell us — your input shapes what we build next.

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Every circle is gender-balanced, carefully curated, and open only to Certified members — because the quality of your experience depends on the quality of who's in the room.

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Experiences & Events

Where Real Connections Get Made

Knowledge and community will take you far. But eventually, you have to be in the room. Our experiences are designed to put you in front of the right people, in the right environment, at exactly the right moment.

Social Circle Event Certified

Social Circle Events

Hikes, private dinners, day trips, gallery nights. Six to twenty people, carefully matched, brought together in low-pressure settings that let real chemistry emerge without the awkwardness of a first date.

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Speed Dating Certified

Curated Speed Dating

Speed dating shouldn't feel like a waste of an evening. Ours doesn't. We screen every participant before the event, so every conversation at your table has genuine potential — and none of your time is wasted.

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Group Dating Certified

Group Dating

Five matched women. Five matched men. One great night out. The group format takes the pressure off entirely — people laugh more, open up faster, and connections that feel organic actually are.

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Matchmaking Verified

Private Dating Experience

This is matchmaking at its fullest. A one-on-one engagement with a certified professional that includes a photoshoot, profile audit, dedicated coach, and a national search for your most compatible matches. For the person who's serious about getting this right.

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DateMaker Series Certified

DateMaker Series

Twice a month, we set up two people on a fully-arranged blind date and follow up on what happened. Sometimes it sparks. Sometimes it teaches. Either way, it's a free night out with real potential — and a great story regardless.

Apply for a free date →
Dating Coaching Authenticated

Dating & Relationship Coaching

Sometimes the missing ingredient isn't opportunity — it's perspective. Our coaches help you understand what's been holding you back, sharpen how you show up, and build the kind of confidence that makes you genuinely magnetic to the right person.

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Valdon — Professional Matchmaker
Meet Your Guide

Built by Someone Who's
Done This for Real

For close to a decade, Valdon has worked as a professional matchmaker — and he'll tell you without hesitation that helping two people find each other is one of the most profound things you can do with your time. He's seen lives change. He's watched people who had nearly given up find the partner they'd been waiting for.

But professional matchmaking is intensive, deeply personal work. There are only so many clients one person can serve well. The waitlist grows. And the people waiting — people who are ready, serious, and deserving — needed something now. Modern Dating Solutions is the answer to that problem.

MoDS is how Valdon's decade of expertise reaches beyond his client list. Every resource on this platform, every event, every curated circle reflects the same philosophy that drives his matchmaking practice: no gimmicks, no algorithms, no shortcuts. Just genuine human connection, built the right way.

If you're serious about finding love — not just dating, but the real thing — Valdon built this for you.

— Valdon Founder, Modern Dating Solutions · Certified Professional Matchmaker
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Resource Directory

Stop Searching.
Everything's Here.

We've done the work of finding, vetting, and connecting the best communities, coaches, and tools available to singles in the Triangle — so you walk in with a head start instead of starting from scratch.

Triangle Singles Group

Nearly 4,000 members and growing. The Triangle's most active community for singles who are genuinely looking — not just browsing.

Facebook Group

Raleigh Christian Singles

A faith-first community where shared values aren't a bonus — they're the foundation. Moderated, respectful, and full of people who take relationships seriously.

Facebook Group

Triangle Black Singles

Vibrant, welcoming, and built around Black love. A community where members show up authentically and celebrate connection without compromise.

Facebook Group

Good Life Community (GDLF)

Growth. Development. Love. Family. If those four words describe what you're building toward, this community will feel like home from day one.

Community

Realth

Build a life worth sharing. Realth combines real estate and wealth strategy for professionals who are building something — and want a partner who's doing the same.

Tool / Platform

Let's Get Social Raleigh

The best relationships often start as friendships. This is where Raleigh's social scene comes alive — activities, events, and real people ready to meet you.

Events

RDU Single Professionals Meetup

Career-focused, socially active, and genuinely interested in connecting. If you're a professional in the Raleigh-Durham area who's ready to meet your peers — this is your group.

Facebook Group

Exclusive Men

Becoming a great partner starts with becoming a great man. This is a private community for men committed to that work — and to the kind of relationship that reflects it.

Men's Community
Your resource here

Are you a coach, community builder, or service provider who serves singles? Apply to join the directory.

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Do You Have a Business or Service That Supports Singles?

Get In Front of 4,000+ People Who Need What You Offer

If your business or service supports singles in any way — whether the connection is direct or a few degrees removed — there's a place for you in the MoDS Resource Directory. We're building a network of quality partners whose work moves people forward. Basic listings are free. Every application is reviewed personally by Valdon.

Free Basic Listing Available
Reviewed in 3 Business Days
No Long-Term Contracts
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Community Dashboard

See Exactly Who's Here Before You Decide

We believe in radical transparency. Before you invest a minute of your time, you deserve to know whether the people you're hoping to meet are actually here. Our live dashboard shows you the real composition of this community — age ranges, relationship goals, gender balance, and more — with no spin and nothing to hide.

Because a community worth joining is one with nothing to hide.

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3,940Total Members
52%Women
48%Men
Ages 28–3534%
Ages 36–4541%
Ages 46–5519%
Ages 56+6%
Seeking Long-Term Relationship78%
Open to Marriage61%
Knowledge & Perspective

Read This Before
Your Next Date

Most dating advice is either obvious, toxic, or written by someone who's never actually sat across from thousands of singles. Ours isn't. These articles come from nearly a decade of watching what works — and what quietly destroys otherwise great chances.

The MoDS Ecosystem
The MoDS Ecosystem

Why One Community Isn't Enough — And What We Built Instead

The problem wasn't the people. It was the infrastructure. Here's the thinking behind the MoDS ecosystem — and why it's built to make connection almost inevitable.

8 min read · Valdon
Why Events Fail Singles
Innovation & Ideas

The Room Was Full. And Nobody Connected. Here's Why.

Bad singles events aren't a coincidence — they're the predictable result of building experiences without asking the people who have to live them. Here's the structural problem, and what we're doing about it.

9 min read · Valdon
Blog
Dating Strategy

Why One-on-One Dating Is Working Against You

The pressure of a first date can make even the most confident person stiff and forgettable. There's a smarter approach — and once you understand it, you'll wonder why you ever did it the hard way.

5 min read · Valdon · Coming Soon
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Good Questions

Let's Clear
Everything Up

Because apps are built for engagement, not relationships. They make money when you keep swiping — not when you find your person and leave. Modern Dating Solutions is built around the opposite goal. We use human judgment, curated community, real-world events, and accountability at every level. There are no algorithms deciding who you see. There are real people — with verified intentions — in the same room as you.
Getting started is completely free. You can register, build your profile, access the resource directory, join the Facebook communities, and begin engaging with the platform at no cost. Premium experiences — like Social Circle events and the Private Dating Experience — are available as you progress to higher membership levels. You'll always know what's included before you commit to anything.
Most singles events are open to anyone — which means you might spend an evening with people who have completely incompatible goals, lifestyles, or values. Social Circles are different at the root. Every attendee is screened through our assessment process, gender-balanced, and grouped based on genuine compatibility. These are small gatherings of 6 to 20 people in relaxed settings — a hike, a private dinner, a day trip — where connection happens the way it's supposed to: naturally, over time, without pressure.
Certified is the level that unlocks Social Circles, curated speed dating, and most of our signature events. To get there, you'll complete your profile to at least 80%, finish our compatibility assessments, and have a brief conversation with our team. It's not a gatekeeping exercise — it's an investment in the quality of your experience and everyone else's. The people you'll meet at Certified-level events are there because they did the same work. That matters.
Absolutely — and we'd love to hear from you. MoDS was built to be a collaborative ecosystem. If you serve singles and your work aligns with our values, a listing in our directory puts you in front of thousands of engaged, motivated people. And the relationship goes both ways — when your community discovers MoDS, our network grows too. Apply to be listed and let's talk.
Our in-person Social Circles and curated events are currently centered in the Triangle — Raleigh, Durham, and Chapel Hill, within about 100 miles. But the resource directory, blog content, coaching, and community knowledge are fully accessible wherever you are. We're building something that will eventually serve singles well beyond the Triangle. If you're local, there's a lot waiting for you right now. If you're not — stay close. We're growing.
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